I have gotten the question “Why do you homeschool?” asked to me more times then I can count. In the beginning I always felt like I had to prove myself and justify my reasoning for wanting to homeschool, especially if it was to someone that I knew disapproved of the idea or asked me in such a way that made me feel as if they thought negatively about it. So I would proceed to spout off my various reasons why, trying to prove my case, and in a way, maybe even hoping to gain their approval about it (that’s the recovering people pleaser in me). But fast forward to this last year, I honestly have gotten pretty annoyed with the question. Now don’t get me wrong. If it someone that is a friend or family and is truly interested in homeschooling and learning about it or maybe even considering homeschooling their kids then hey, I’m your girl, ask away! But for those people that are just randomly asking and are coming off judgemental about it, well then let’s just keep it real, they can kick rocks lol!
Now my Mama taught me better so I definitely try to watch what I say and try not to give a snappy response. But the bottom line is, I don’t owe anyone (other than maybe the school district lol), a reason or explaination. It is also not my responsiblity to educate them on the benefits or merits of homeschooling. How often do you think parents that send their kids to public school are asked why they do so? Hmm, I’m thinking probably never. So I have freed myself of the burden of explaining. Now days I might say something along the lines of “ There are alot of reasons but I’ll just say freedom of choice.”, and I’ll leave it at that.
On the other hand, if you are someone like me who often walks away from social interactions, thinking “ I should’ve said this”, or “Why didn’t I say that, then girlfriend, I feel your pain. That is the story of my life lol. Never knowing the right thing to say in the moment. Maybe taking some time to think about what you will say the next time you are asked will make you feel more at ease and comfortable in that moment. You’ll be prepared to say as little or as much as you would like and you will be able to walk away content with your response.
Drop me a line and let me know what your typical response is when you’re asked. I’d love to hear it!
